1. Do I look amazing in it?
2. If I were in the store right now, would I buy this again?
3. Does it fit?
4. Are there any stains?
5. Do you like it?
6. Have you worn it in the last year?
7. Can you mentally think of how you would style it?
Once I go through all of those questions, the garments either go into the keep, donate, or trash pile. This has been going on for a few days (hence the amount of clothes that I have). I'm really proud to say that a ton of things are going to the thrift store and other items that I had honestly forgotten about are about to start getting a lil more air time. I'm excited! Plus my life is feeling much lighter now that things are leaving my house.
Today I carried out some trash and I began to think about my childhood and what made me start shopping like a crazy woman in the first place. I think I have written before about all of this, so there is no need in me rehashing all the dirt. But, today's thoughts went a little bit further. When I started working at age 15, I remember that my sister and I would save up our money and put stuff on layaway throughout the summer. I would have a plan to grab as much stuff as I could on sale and then when it was time to get everything out, I was always certain to ask them to double check and make sure that nothing had gone on sale while they were in layaway (such a lil smartie!). On top of that, I would try to get enough clothes for both the summer and winter during this time.
When I think back, I don't remember ever wearing sweaters and stuff. It makes sense though because they wouldn't have been on sale in August! I always wore regular tops throughout the year and would just put on a coat. It made perfect sense to me! So how does a girl go from shopping once a year, to being a thrifty shopaholic? Easy....LACK.
Lack will make you overcompensate in the area where things are scarce. Give it some thought! The person who never felt loved, may be the person that jumps from relationship to relationship with hopes of finding the magic cure to the whole in their heart. Or maybe the person who lacked money grows up to stock pile funds so that they will never have a want again. While it mentally makes sense to fill our lives with stuff (emotional or physical) because we didn't have enough of it, the truth is that extra stuff won't help. It doesn't fill the hole that you are sensing. So it's time for me to start letting go of stuff so that I can make room for the things that really matter. Clothes don't matter. Not having enough clothes doesn't matter. That lack will no longer define me or be the guiding force of my life.
Be better,
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